Chapter
5
Nurturer
By Dr.
Steve Frisch, Psy.D.
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The Nurturer
The
Nurturer is the part of you that is able to empathically parent your Self and your supporting cast
members. The Nurturer is able to comfort, soothe, and love every aspect of who you
are. The Nurturer is the unconditionally accepting energy within yourself that is able to
embrace without judgment each disowned part of who you are with the same amount of love
used to embrace those qualities of yourself you hold no prejudices towards.
The
Nurturer holds no ill-will towards any aspect of who you are. He sees the goodness and the
God-ness in all of who you are. The Nurturers job is to nurse back to health the
malnourished parts that you have cast aside as well as to tend to the feeding and care of
those parts of your Self that youve
already claimed.
Whereas
the Intolerant Self is like a Marine drill sergeant, relying on criticism and judgment to
whip your Self and others into shape, the
Nurturer is like Mother Theresa, relying on charity and compassion. As you begin to
transform your relationship with your character
defects, there will be no one who has a more important role in that transformation
than the Nurturer.
The Nurturer
| Sense of Self |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Benevolent
Charitable
Congruent
Deserving
Devoted
Flexible
Giving
Honorable
Humane
Integrity
Likable
Lovable
Merciful
Tender
Valid
Worthy
| Core Emotions |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Affection
Compassion
Contentment
Happy
Harmony
Inspired
Joy
Kind
Love
Uplifted
Optimistic
Peaceful
Self-Love
Self-Worth
In Relationship/
Towards Self and
Others |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Accepting
Affirming
Amicable
Affable
Available
Benevolent
Caring
Charitable
Compassionate
Connected
Emotionally Honest
Empathic
Flexible
Forgiving
Friendly
Generous
Gentle
Genuine
Humane
Involved
Kind
Loving
Merciful
Mindfulness
Offering
Open
Present
Provide For
Reciprocating
Soothing
Tender
Thoughtful
Tolerant
Validating
In Relationship/
Experience of Others |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Attentive
Consistent
Constant
Dependable
Encouraging
Fair
Faithful
Flexible
Helpful
Loyal
Reassuring
Reliable
Respectful
Safe
Supportive
Sympathetic
Thoughtful
Trustworthy
Understanding
| World View |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Constancy
Faithfulness
Give and Take
Love
People are Dependable
Respectful
Safe
| Tensions That Awaken the Nurturer |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Confusion
Doubt
Depression
Distress
Emotional Depletion
Fear
Grief
Hurt feelings
Intimacy
Loneliness
Pain
Sadness
| Fears |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Abandonment
Feeling Foolish
Feeling Unloved
Feeling Unwanted
Loneliness
Pain
| Avoidance |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
N/A
| Physiological State |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Balance
Calm
Harmony
Elation
Joy
Love
Rapture
| Mastery Over Self and Life Tasks |
Me |
Not Me |
Don't Know |
Able
to Receive
Certain
Clear
Confident
Giving
Direct
Positive
G.B.U.
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