Chapter 5
Ego
By Dr. Steve Frisch, Psy.D.

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Ego

Ego is the birthplace of your self-will. It’s the incubator in which all of your little selves are hatched. It’s the petri dish in which all the different permutations and combinations of your Self that you present to the world are created. Ego is an internal assembly line that cranks out entitlement, shame, grandiosity, willfulness, intolerance, and judgmentalness, three shifts a day, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, fifty-two weeks of the year.

Ego is the supporting cast member who seeks to impose his will on everybody and everything, insists on going it alone in life, and continually clings to that which does not work. She’s the supporting cast member who honors your fears, plants doubt in your mind, and second guesses the choices you make. Ego’s the voice within that demands proof, has faith only when it’s convenient, and raises procrastination to an art form. He’s the supporting cast member that must be right all the time, insists on making everyone else wrong, yet refuses to practice what he preaches. She’s the energy within that demeans everything you do and say, judges unmercifully who you are and what you’re not, and sabotages your moments of emotional and spiritual well-being.

Ego is the Lord of your character defects and as such must be [re]claimed in order to be transformed. There are higher forms that Ego can transform into. They are merely awaiting your willingness to let go, surrender, and detach from the death grip you maintain on Ego. For in letting go of your reliance on Ego, you can then open up to experience your entire supporting cast members as higher incarnations of who they really are.

Ego 

Agitator
Conceit
Entitled
Fragile
Frail
Greedy
Insecure
Lazy
Possessive
Prideful
Privilege
Provocateur
Shallow
Small
Smug
Stingy
Trickster
Willful

Anger
Acquisitive
Cheated
Contempt
Covetous
Cower
Craving
Deprived of
what is owed.
Desire
Disdain
Dread
Envy
Fear
Gluttony
Irate
Jealous
Longing
Lust
Malice
Outrage
Panic
Pettiness
Terror

Belittle
Bossy
Commanding
Critical
Demanding
Derogatory
Dominate
Domineering
Dictatorial
Egocentric
Egotistical
Enticing
Exploitive
Manipulative
Menacing
Seducing
Self-Absorbed
Self-Centered
Self-indulgent
Self-serving
Selfish

Controlling
Discourteous
Indomitable
Inflexible
Intimidating
Mean
Not Understanding
Punitive
Rigid
Slanderous
Strict
Unfair
Unyielding
Withholding

Big
Overwhelming
The world exists to serve you
Unsafe
Unloving

Change
Defeat
Disappointment
Failure
Fatigue
Frustration
Hunger
Loneliness
Loss
Not getting own way
Unfamiliar circumstances or environment
Unfulfilled needs
Willfulness being defeated

Being Exposed
Equality
Helplessness
Impotence
Inadequacy
Ineptitude
Inferiority
Powerlessness
Present Moment
Letting go
Not being center of attention
Not having own way
Surrendering

Chaos
Drama
Excuses
Justifications
Temper Tantrums

Anger
Apathy
Agitated
Aroused
Deprivation
Detachment
Disinterest
Fatigue
Indifference
Jealousy
Provoked
Tantrums

N/A

G.B.U.

Steve

Dr. Steve Frisch, Psy.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Chicago, Illinois and Northfield, Illinois. You can contact Dr. Frisch, Psy.D. at drfrisch@aliveandwellnews.com  or at (847) 604-3290. Recover from chemical dependency and its toxic impact on family members. Raise your children to choose to be alcohol and other drugs free. Learn how to in Dr. Frisch’s, Psy.D. Recovery book series.